Whether your child has developmental delays, learning challenges, behavioural concerns, social and/or emotional difficulties, or just plain homework struggles, too often parents are at a loss as to what they could do in order to better support their child in school.

Typically, parents view the school team as the experts on their child and they look to them for answers. Unfortunately, most parents don't recognize that they are indeed the experts on their child and therefore feel rather insecure about their role in their child's education. Advocating on behalf of your child can be rather overwhelming and intimidating; however, knowing what steps to take can result in a positive school experience for the parent and most importantly, for the child.

How can parents become effective advocates for their child?

1. It is important that parents become an active partner on their child's school team. This involves attending all meetings and conferences. Listen with an open mind to both the teacher and your child, and work towards establishing good relations with your child's educators.

2. Be aware of your child's strengths and weaknesses, challenges, homework, grades, learning style, etc. and accept his/her strengths and weaknesses. Ask questions and educate yourself on your child's disability and/or challenges. Understand and know what your rights are, and what is possible within the school environment and what is not possible.

3. Trust that your child's teacher(s) has/have your child's best interest in mind. Avoid blaming the teacher, other students, administrator, etc., and be considerate of the teacher's time.

4. Trust your own instincts and judgements. Gather information and data regarding your child's issues. Know when to seek help for your child and consult with the appropriate individuals, including professionals. Inform yourself and access appropriate community resources.

5. If you suspect that your child is struggling or has social or emotional issues, discuss this with your child's teacher. Be proactive, rather than reactive and don't be afraid to consult with community resources. They are there to help support you and your child.

6. If you fear that there is a problem between your child and his/her teacher, discuss this with either the teacher alone or with the teacher and school principal. Work on problem solving and establishing effective solutions. Avoid saying negative comments in front of your child.

7. Keep in mind that for most issues that arise, the first steps in addressing your child's concern is to begin with the teacher. Moreover, if there are professionals within the school, such as guidance counsellors and/or school psychologists, contact them. They could be a valuable and helpful resource. If at that point, you and/or your child feel that the issues have not been adequately addressed by the teacher, then the next step would be to contact the school principal.

8. Depending on the concern or issue, sometimes it might be beneficial to express your concerns in writing. Keep a record of all communications.

9. Choose battles wisely. Know that confrontations serve no real purpose other than creating a negative, stressful and unproductive atmosphere for all parties involved.

In summary, ongoing parental involvement and support are essential to your child's overall success. By appropriately advocating for your child, parents can better ensure that their children will get the necessary help they need. Effective parental advocacy can help in reducing the risk of long term negative impacts on your child and his/her education.



Elizabeth Shoiry has earned a M.Ed. degree in Educational Psychology and Counselling, a B.Sc. degree in Psychology and a B.Sc. degree in Neurobiology and Comparative Physiology from McGill University. She is a licensed psychologist who has extensive experience working with children, adolescents, and their families, as well as with adults, teachers, administrators and other professionals. Elizabeth has worked in both the private and public school settings, and with First Nation communities. She is currently in private practice in Montreal, Quebec and can be contacted by email at careershoe@gmail.com or by calling 514 736 0793.